Asian Eyes: A Fold Between Beauty and Identity

If I told you I underwent double eyelid surgery—the #1 type of cosmetic surgery in Asia—to make my eyes look more awake, would you believe me?

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Before and after photos

Asian eyes

Never mind that Asia is the largest continent on the planet, when people say “Asian eyes,” they generally refer to the almond-shaped eyes (which are not even almond-shaped) of Eastern/Southeastern populations. Within this frame of reference, people will often focus on two characteristics: the epicanthic fold and the eyelid.

The epicanthic fold is circled on each eye (source: Wikipedia)

The epicanthic fold is circled on each eye (source: Wikipedia)

The epicanthic fold is the bit of skin from the upper eyelid that comes down over the inner corner of the eye. Interestingly, 60% of people with Down Syndrome also have this feature, but that’s a different topic.

Then there is the infamous crease in the eyelid, which is absent in about 50% of Chinese and Vietnamese, and 75% of Koreans. Some say that it is “missing,” which I disagree with, as this would suggest a deficiency rather than a difference between Asian and Caucasian eyes.

Growing up in a small French town, my sister Estelle and I had learned to live among people who regularly commented on the shape of our eyes. (Little sister Julienne was born with double eyelids for some reason.) It wasn’t until Estelle and I came to Boston and made Asian friends that we were exposed to the outlandish idea of changing the way we looked.

Double eyelid obsession

High school friends showed us how to use a thin strip of tape and eyeliner to create that extra fold that would brighten up our faces. I watched Estelle experiment with this at home, but we agreed it was just too weird. Asian girls online share a myriad of ways to get rid of monolids, including not drinking water after a certain hour, sleeping with one’s head elevated, using anti-puff agents, and of course wearing that lid-tape during the day to hold the fold in place. One girl uses glue and lid tape every single day to face this “life-long battle.”

However, the one sure and permanent way of getting double eyelids is through surgery. You could look up blepharoplasty on Wikipedia—a type of surgery meant to correct or modify the eyelid—though you might not want to see the pictures in the article. They will make your eyes hurt. Asian blepharoplasty, also known as “double eyelid surgery,” is the most common procedure in many parts of Asia, particularly in Korea.

Why the war on monolids?

Julie Chen from CBS had to choose between surgery and career advancement.

Julie Chen from CBS underwent double eyelid surgery to advance in her career.

According to one CNN report, getting your eyelids cut open not only means looking more beautiful but, in some parts of the world, it also means getting ahead in life. Imagine that? Master’s degree: Check. Peer-reviewed publications: Check. Double eyelids: Ooh… Sorry, but we cannot hire you at this time. News anchor and producer at CBS Julie Chen knows the pressure of having to “fix” her Asian eyes. Her superiors had made their message very clear. She had to choose between Asian blepharoplasty and stagnation in her career. “Because of your Asian eyes,” a boss told her, “I’ve noticed that when you’re on camera, you look disinterested and bored.” Sadly, she is not the only one. Many Asian Americans, especially those who work directly with clients or potential sponsors, have reported that their hooded eyes were often perceived as a lack of alertness. In a society where eye contact is a crucial part of effective communication, these people found themselves fighting an uphill battle.

Fashion magazines and designers have been making conscientious efforts to feature Asian models with monolids, perhaps to encourage little girls to appreciate the beauty in all eye shapes. Whether or not that’s working, I was told that people in Northern Europe have now been seeking to have their eyes “look Asian” through surgery. I will never understand. Also, I couldn’t verify this.

What I do know is that the vast majority of Asian Americans who go under the knife for the extra eye fold are adamant about their motivations. The procedure is not to erase their identity, and in fact they want to preserve it. Just like breast augmentation or a face lift, this has nothing to do with one’s cultural heritage. It is a cosmetic decision, a surgical way to achieve a desired look. We are kindly asked to not judge based on race.

My lid wrinkles

I did not use lid-tape or stop drinking water after 10 pm, and I certainly did not undergo double eyelid surgery (shivers). My lid wrinkles simply showed up over a period of several years. I got a semi-permanent fold on one lid first, and as it became more stable another fold became visible. Various online forums indicate that this is not an uncommon phenomenon. Several posters mentioned that this happened after a weight loss, though most people couldn’t explain this gradual change.

It was never my intention to do anything about my eyelids, but here are things I would have told myself if I ever did (also good for life in general):

  • Don’t cry. Sometime in high school, I began crying on a regular basis (don’t ask). After a few years, the habit was reduced to a weekly occurrence, and I noticed that my semi-permanent crease was only visible if I had not cried the night before.
  • Don’t stress. I get hives when I’m under acute stress. It took a while to figure this out, as I was chronically stressed for so long. This might have contributed to my eyelids being stuck in a constant swollen state. Think puffer fish.
  • Don’t eat crap. My poor and unwise self had the habit of consuming nothing but a side of fries or a muffin for lunch, in a short-sighted effort to save money. More fat on your face will not do anything for your eyes, or your overall health.

I am not saying that if you are happy as a clam and fit as a professional athlete, you will magically go from monolid to double lid. I’ve only noticed that, for me personally, some unhealthy practices had contributed to the swelling around my eyes. At the end of the day, what I can stand behind is that, with mono- or double eyelids, a good dose self-esteem is probably the best thing you can ask for / work on.

Photos taken 9 years apart

Photos taken 9 years apart

 

Update: It’s been a few months since I last took a look at my blog and I just unearthed a few valuable comments that got lost in a sea of spam messages. I want to thank all those who shared their responses, and I sincerely apologize for not getting around to approving them until now!

40 thoughts on “Asian Eyes: A Fold Between Beauty and Identity

  1. Joanne

    Holding a judgemental view on those who wish to change their appearance is negative and childish. People should be allowed to do what they please with their bodies, whether it means modifying it or being happy with ones own genetics 🙂

    1. Destiny

      People should do what makes them happy and what makes them feel comfortable but i find that even the prettiest of people want what they don”t have thinking it will make them look prettier but what they don’t understand is that they look pretty with what you have and there should be no need to change your apperance. Again its up to them what they decide but im just saying you will look pretty with either.

  2. Khürt Williams

    It depresses me to think that everything a white western person thinks and does is considered normal with everyone else having to live up to that norm. How did we come to this?

    1. Marina Post author

      I’m not a sociologist, but I don’t believe there is a simple answer to your question. I think that wherever you are, what is prevalent becomes the norm, so what’s “normal” here isn’t necessarily “normal” elsewhere. In a small French town in the 80s, being Asian wasn’t the norm, just like being bilingual wasn’t either. And then you have norms that seem more arbitrary, like in some Asian companies where you can be denied job opportunities if you don’t fit Western norms. It’s odd, isn’t it?

    2. Anonymous

      This has nothing to do with a Caucasian/western standards. Almost every ethnic group have double eyelids… Personally I want the surgery… And even afterwards I’ll still look Asian…difference is….I
      can wear makeup like anyone else😊😊

  3. C. Ha

    This happened to me as well, but more rapidly as I was severely obese when I was younger. As I got older, I started to lose weight and age so my creases came in. Seems like a common occurence.

    1. Marina Post author

      This is so interesting! Thank you so much for sharing your experience here. Until very recently, I thought my experience was an oddity, but as you’re pointing out here, it is in fact quite common.

  4. Sarah

    I.am Caucasian so it never occurred to me some Asian people didn’t like the folds on their eyes. I had always thought Asian eyes beautiful
    I always hated my very white skin. Guess people should love whatnthetnget. But we never do.

    1. Marina Post author

      Hi Sarah, thanks for your comment. I have a friend who lives here in the States, but when she goes back to the Philippines to visit, her family won’t let her go out without skin whitening cream and a giant umbrella. There are so many people who would love to have your very white skin. I hope you have come to love it too, as this is something that makes you, you.

      1. tweetbird55

        Same here with me. I came to dislike my fair complexion. And my straight, narrow nose that from the side looks sort of beak-ish to me.
        I believe it’s because of the area I’ve lived in and the kind of people I hung round.
        But it always seems that we wish for what we don’t have….straight haired people want curly hair. Blue eyed wishes for hazel. It just seems greener on the other side 😃

  5. Suzy

    Interesting post! I had monolids as a kid but they suddenly changed to double eyelids when I got older. I’m not aware I did anything to contribute.

    And thank you for mentioning that Asians don’t usually want to erase their identity through that surgery. In reality, there are many of us who are born with double eyelids but for some reason people think ALL Asians have the same monolidded eyes so they accuse us of wanting to look “white”. 🙁

    1. Marina Post author

      Thanks for sharing, Suzy! And I’m sorry that people have been so hurtful. I’ve heard similar “white out” accusations before, but only coming from other Asians. This was in a US high school, a time when questions about identity get explored, so I can imagine there being a lot of internal and external struggles at play–for everyone involved. I don’t know about your experience, but I sure hope that these people will one day learn that being Asian doesn’t mean we can’t be diverse.

  6. Robert Lefrancois

    Personally I find “asian eyes” very beautiful and exotic looking. I don’t know why anyone would want to change that. Sadly society today is very homogenized. Differences between races and cultures are being eliminated. I find that tragic. We seem to have an obsession with everything being the same everywhere. People who speak with accents are looked down on. People who look unique are ostracized. Diversity is a dirty word. It’s tragic.

    1. Marina Post author

      That’s an interesting perspective. I think many people around the world would find your eyes “beautiful and exotic looking” too! Where I am, diversity is celebrated. Even visiting my old French town, people have become very accepting of others’ differences. I’m sorry that your experience isn’t as positive.

  7. Chris

    The procedure is not to erase their identity, and in fact they want to preserve it. – How?

    The real issue at hand is the gradual development of the internalization of racism by attempting to fit into a racist society.

    You’re Asian? How unfortunate! Well .. you can still redeem yourself by looking more Caucasian and adopting all our social norms.

    1. Marina Post author

      Thanks for your insightful comment! Sadly, we can find forms of racism everywhere, whether it’s in the US, India, or Japan… And as you pointed out, it can be internalized too. As individuals, we want to stand out as unique, but as members of a society, we also want to fit in. I like to think of identity as something that we can explore, define, and redefine as we go. Not everything can be changed of course, but identity isn’t skin deep. But when low self-esteem is combined with external pressures, we can sometimes get a little lost.

      1. Chris

        The way we define our identity cannot be free from being influenced by the prevailing norms of society.

        Therefore we need to be constantly critical of society’s norms – reject the destructive opinions and build upon what is constructive to our emotional well-being and personal growth.

        1. Marina Post author

          Chris, I so appreciate you sharing these wise thoughts here! I absolutely agree with you. And to add to societal norms, there are also family norms to consider. I grew up hearing things like, “Leave the Whites alone. They’re not the racist ones–we [Asians] are! We’re the ones that discriminate against Blacks, Jews, Hispanics… we even discriminate against ourselves.” Lots to think about as a young child.

  8. Tyler

    Hi! Doing a research paper and came across your post. Was wondering what generation Asian American you are, if you don’t mind. Thank you!

    1. Marina Post author

      Hi Tyler, thanks for your question. I wouldn’t say that I am Asian American—I am just Asian! I was born in Vietnam, grew up in France, and came to the US before college. You can learn more about my early life in the “We were boat people” post. Good luck with your research paper, and let me know if there’s anything else I can do to help.

  9. Sophia

    Hey, I just went through the same transformation! I’ve always had monolids but in the last few months or so, I noticed my lids slowly transformed. Maybe this happened because of stress in med school, because nothing else about me has changed. Asian relatives and family friends are commenting that I’ve become more beautiful, and they felt it was a compliment to me to say my eyes are prettier this way. I’m glad this happens quite frequently and is not a manifestation of early ptosis or something.

    1. Marina Post author

      I looked up “ptosis,” and I too am happy that this is not what’s happening to you. It’s nice that your relatives and family friends are finding you more beautiful. At the same time, I hope that you would have felt beautiful either way–many people who’ve grown up in an Asian family probably understand what it’s like to be scrutinized. Just to clarify, though, are you saying your lids are changing *as a result* of stress?

      1. A Girl Named Cake

        No, she thinks her “puffer fish” eye lid was due to stress. Therefore, she deduces that less stress can help reduce the “swelling” of eyelids and help them go from monolids to double-lids.

        In reality, her lids most likely changed due to the loss of facial fat, which gave her eyelids that “swollen” appearance. In younger Asians, that area in between the brow and the upper eyelid has more fat storage in them. But as an Asian ages, that fat is slowly lost due to the aging process, so the area immediately above the eyelid gets thinner. Once the area gets thinner (and lighter in weight), less fat is hanging down to weigh the upper eyelid down, and in a few lucky individuals such as herself, a small double eyelid crease naturally appears. This was the exact case with me.

        I had the quintessential “puffer-fish” monolids growing up. Now that I am much older, both my eyes have become double-lided and appear much bigger than before. This little natural “transformation” happens with many many East Asians when they age, including the Japanese and the Chinese. The eyes start out squinted, gets bigger in a person’s mid 20’s to mid 40’s, then gets smaller again starting in the late 40’s and 50’s and so on… in the end the eye will appear small and squinty again due to the loss of collagen in the increasingly droopy eyelid, such as the case with all elderly people. The eyes change from small to big back to small again as a person ages. Same thing with East Asians. It’s just biology and nothing special or surprising.

        1. Marina Post author

          That’s interesting. Since you seem to know so much about this topic, would you happen to also know the percentage of people with monolids vs. double eyelids in different age groups in various East Asian populations?

      2. A Girl Named Cake

        stress in med school —- LEADS TO —-> hastened loss of facial fat

        hastened loss of facial fat —- LEADS TO —-> loss of fat in the area in between the brow and the upper eyelid

        loss of fat in the area in between the brow and the upper eyelid —- LEADS TO —-> the eyelid changing from monolid to double-lid

        Therefore,
        stress in med school —- LEADS TO —-> the eyelid changing from monolid to double-lid

        That’s what she’s saying. She just skipped a few steps in her explanation.

        When you lose your facial fat (ie. babyfat), your chin also becomes pointier, your cheekbones become more prominent, your jawline becomes more defined, the tip of your nose becomes less bulbous, your nose bridge seems more defined…etc etc.
        Look at your before and after photos again, you’ll see what I mean.

        Personally, I like the monolid look much better. Caucasians see things much differently. My past boyfriends for example have ALL complimented the monolid look. They said it’s partly what makes Asians, Asians, and unique from other races. Caucasian women say the same thing to me. Some of them are even envious of the monolid, which they believe makes Asians look exotic and different from them. What irony… It’s no wonder I can’t stand being around Asians and their ridiculous insecurities.

        Weirdo Asian women love to tell each other and tell me that I look “prettier”, now that my eyes have become so much bigger. I say they can go take a hike! I’ve always looked pretty, monolid or otherwise. I was proud of my monolids before I lost them. I swear Asians are becoming more and more bigoted these days. When I get “complimented” by relatives and friends of the family on my “new” double eyelids, how I am “so lucky” to naturally change from monolids to double-lids all “without having to do plastic surgery”, all I feel is an intense wave of hate and revulsion for these people. My own mother has even complimented me on my new double eyelids. My own mother! What is WRONG with this picture?

        1. Marina Post author

          Some of that “intense wave of hate and revulsion” does come through in your message. Having received similar comments from family / family friends (“Look! She finally got pretty, she’s more like her mother now!”), I can somewhat empathize. My eyebrows are still “terrible” and my thighs are “My god, so fat!” and previously I studied too hard (I must be stupid) or I didn’t study enough (I must be lazy). In my experience, that kind of eyelid conversation is merely a symptom of a deeper misalignment in perspectives and expectations… almost a difference in culture if that makes sense. Recognizing that has helped me tremendously.

          Also, for a long time I had an uncomfortable relationship with Vietnamese people as a group, mostly because I was not okay with the constant judging at family gatherings, or from total strangers at restaurants, shops, etc. (a waitress at a local restaurant warned me that I was getting fat.) However, by exposing myself to new environments, I came to meet some delightful, insightful, and genuinely kind Vietnamese people who have become people I now trust and respect deeply. They are creative and open-minded, curious about solving problems, and they are incredible listeners. It turned out that I had open up my view of the world.

          My hope is that you too will experience that not all Asians are “bigots” or have “weird insecurities.”

  10. Majara Williams

    I can’t speak for others, but I personally can understand wanting your eyes to look “more asian”. For me, it has to do with identity. I am multiracial, black and native American mostly. Any person who knows what native Americans look like, should be able to look at me and have no doubt that I’m not lying.

    Unfortunately there are some very irritating ideas of race in America. Like the one drop rule, which despite being absurd in this day and age, some how the majority of people (in my experience) can not get past it and still treat it like it is law or something. *for anyone who doesn’t know (I never assume anyone knows what I’m talking about), the one drop rule is that if you have even one ancestor from Africa, you are officially a negro.* In other words even if you had pale skin, blue eyes, and the blondes the of hair; if your great great great X20 grandfather was African, you are black.

    The other rediclous belief is that almost every black person that claims to have native American ancestors, is lying because they want to prove that they are “less black”. Even my boyfriends family out right claims that i “just don’t want to admit that I am black.” Which once again, if you could take one look at me you would understand how absurd this is.

    This leaves me with the majority of people telling me, and believing that am black. Then I have the majority of African Americans looking at me like “wtf is this? You aren’t black”.

    So my whole life my identity has been questioned and denied. I have no culture I belong to, no group I can associate myself with. I’ll I have is what is say which only makes me look like someone who is in denial.

    I apologize for the whole race rant. I just want to express what I have dealt with in terms of identity. The reason why this all has to do with eyes, is because that’s what I tell people. When people call me a liar or question me, I tell them “look at my eyes”. How can you look in my eyes and still not believe me?

    My eyes are “asian-ish” for lack of a better word. The best way I could describe my eyes without any visual is that, my eyes looked like an Asian who has had the double eyelid surgery. And honestly I do wish that my eyes looked more asian. Because they truly are so beautiful, for anyone with doubt just look at the insane amount of people with Asian fetishes. But also for me it’s proof of who I am. It sounds silly, it really does, but just like the surgery isn’t about changing identity or looking less asian, if I ever tried surgery (which I probably never will) it wouldn’t be to try to be asian, it would just be enhancing what I already have. With or without it doesn’t change my identity of course.

    If I did get surgery (which I only have considered hypothetically) I would only want my epicanthal folds to be more prominent. For reference I do have them, they just don’t cover the whole canthal, or corner. Which I think is the biggest difference between my eyes, and the eyes of full asians/native Americans.

    1. Clare

      I can totally relate to the whole race BS. I’m Asian, but also multicultural. As in, I was raised in many cultures. I don’t feel ownership to any one. For a while I felt that was sad. Then as I grew up it became ridiculous. Americans would think I’m Chinese (after I tell them I was born there- they could never tell otherwise) and Chinese people would also assume I’m Chinese- at first. Then I’m outed. Because I know nothing a “real Chinese” should know. Then both countries view me as some sort of exotic cross breed. It irritated me a lot.

      Especially when both the US and China are such big international players, when I meet people not from either country, they can’t decide which stereotypes to heap on me. If I first lead them to think I’m American, they will fixate on my behaviors that align with their stereotypes about America. If I let them think I’m Chinese, then by god nothing I do, not even my Midwestern American accent, will dissuade them from trying to shove me into the “Chinese” box. After a while I decided to just screw with people. If you try to put me in your neat little ethnic boxes I will DESTROY that box. After living in Germany I’ve picked up a Germany I’ve picked up a slight German accent that I can turn off at will. Usually I don’t bother. It confuses them, as it ought. People are not born to be put in boxes. People who get to know me usually have their preconceived notions shattered, and I’m not sorry.

      And as for my epicanthic fold… I’m leaving that alone (I actually have double lids under that fold. They come out. Sometimes). I’m at an age where any appearance other than the one I’m born with would trigger eerie feelings of the uncanny valley every time I look into the mirror, even if I would look “prettier”. Maybe it’s because I’m unused to altering my appearance. I was a tomboy and never used make up. One day a well meaning friend did it for me on the school bus. Other people think I looked pretty. When I got home and looked into the mirror I was appalled and washed it off right away. To this day I don’t use make up.

      1. Marina Post author

        Hi Clare,

        Your comment, and particularly the last part of it, reminded me of the Disney version of Mulan. They put makeup on her, they make her carry herself like a traditional bride, they keep reminding her the “honor” speech, but under all those layers lies an actual person who somehow doesn’t fit the stereotype imposed on her.

        I love that the character of Mulan evolves and redefines herself throughout the movie so that she grows into someone she’s finally proud of. You may decide you never want to use makeup again. But if you do, that’s okay too, as long as it’s on your own terms and that it reflects the person that you’ve become. Life is not always about change, but it is usually about growth.

    2. Marina Post author

      Hi Majara,

      No need to apologize. Your story is fascinating! I had never really thought much of this idea of being “more” or “less black,” though there are similar variations for trying to be “more” or “less Asian,” so I shouldn’t be surprised… Insecurities come out in so many different forms and they get projected all over the place.

      Actually, here are other accounts from multi-racial people who have experienced racism from within their own racial groups: https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/3s5k7x/mixedrace_people_what_are_some_problems_that_you/

      For me, it’s not only my appearance but also my accent. I’ve worked really hard over the years to have a sturdy American accent, and Americans often tell me that I don’t have one. However, when I’m really tired, I may sound slightly French or just confused. People then try and figure out which “type of Asian” I am, based on that. I just say, “It’s complicated.”

      At any rate, I’m glad you were able to use this blog as a platform to share your experience. Others may feel validated reading about it.

  11. Christine Pham

    I won’t lie here, I have/had been very judgmental of Asians doing the facial cosmetic surgeries for probably obvious reasons. Having been raised in the U.S. and always being told that “be you” or “beauty is only skin deep” and etc. with all the things we should do to accept our differences has kept me into a certain mindset.

    Growing up Viet-American my family have watched Vietnamese entertainment, and like everywhere else, the majority of the singers have had some kind of surgery (mainly the women). At the time when I saw ads about it or heard the adults talk about it. It always seemed like a thing to just keep older people looking young- it wasn’t until around high school did I find out exactly how common it was in Asia, and that many of their celebrities looked nothing like how they do now.

    This bugged me because they seemed to focus on “whiter” features (rounder eyes, narrower/higher noses, a more pronounced profile, and very pale skin). It was all very new to me that people of Asian descent vied for these surgeries.

    Fast forward to another decade and I am now here in South Korea, capital of Asian PS. Yes about 1 in 5 women have had surgery (for the younger generation it is definitely more popular) and it is also more common for men to have these surgeries. It’s so common that the eyelid surgery is not actually considered to be plastic surgery anymore by Korean people. The age at which they get the surgery is also getting younger and younger (I’m talking Kindergarten ages!) because of crazy parents and society..

    In the end, no, they don’t really look like Caucasians majority of the time. You have some groups where they bleach their hair blonde and color lenses are also all the rage here, and that’s when I’m like c’mon, obviously that has some kind of Western influence. Some Korean guys I’ve talked to here tend to think it is influenced by Western culture because a lot of social trends do indeed follow it. Though of course they’re not the only ones that do that. We see several black hip-hop artists in the U.S. doing the exact same thing.

    I think South Korea has had a bad wrap made by Western media making the people here sound like monsters when really the majority of them have done fairly minor surgeries. I mean look at the tanning culture in the U.S./U.K., etc. and the over-the-top surgeries everywhere in L.A.

    In the end I don’t really relate to these kinds of body modifications, and I don’t like the lack of individualism that exists here in Korea, but to whoever wants to do it, it’s their money and their body.

  12. Vivi

    Im half vietnamese and half norwegian and I think that monolids are so beautiful, I don’t have monolids but I think they look cute and you should not have to change them. From your pictures can I see that you are a beautiful and young woman with a great future ahead, im soon done with high school where I live ( im 18 now ). Anyways, don’t change, your eyes are so unique and beautiful and as someone who also grew up in the western world I know how it is with ” fitting in ” and it has been hard for me too, I was bullied in 1st and 2nd grade and in 1st grade in high school there was always these mean girls who was mean to me for being asian? I don’ know what is wrong with the world, I am proud of being asian and you should be proud of having monolids. I have a friend with monolids and she hates them but I think they are so cute and you should never do anything to them. My point is that you are so beautiful and what I have learned is that being different is beautiful, something I wish I knew when I was younger and had low self-esteem. They treated me bad just for being asian, I haven’t donr anything wrong. I used to cry all the time after school because people disliked that I looked different but I also understood that white boys find asian girls cute, remember that😂 But anyways, you are beautiful and you have always been. Everything will be okay and I hope you are doing great now 🙂

    1. Marina Post author

      Hi Vivi,

      You are so sweet! Thank you for being so kind. I am much more comfortable in my skin now, and most of that has to do with having found inner peace–by accepting some difficult truths in my life, and embracing my imperfections instead of fighting them.

      I hope your friend ends up being proud of who she is and what she looks like. It may take time, so be patient with her. These kinds of revelations come from within.

  13. lovenicky

    My eyes also changed from monolids to double lids gradually as I grew up. I had monolids as a baby. Then when I enter my teenage years, my eyelids became looser and looser. I would get double lids naturally when I wake up in the morning for a while and then they went back to monolids but with obviously fold lines on the eyelids. Then in my early 20’s they became hooded eyes (i.e. the double lids were concealed inside the outer lids). And then in my 30’s they became definite double lids just like yours. I have never used any eyelid tapes, and had never had any cosmetic procedures. It’s quite a mystery. But my mom told me that she had a similar experience as mine. She was born with monolids and when she became an adult, she had double lids. It’s hereditary! My husband seems oblivious to the changes to my eyelids though. LOL!

    1. Marina Post author

      I laughed out loud when I read your comment about your husband. Is he Asian? Mine isn’t, and he couldn’t care less about the fact that I’ve gone through all my “lid phases” throughout our years together. All laughs aside, I love that your husband has always loved you for who you are, regardless of the shape of your eyelids. What an interesting evolution, though! Thanks for sharing your story.

  14. Momo

    Super interesting article! I definitely did not know it was possible to spontaneously develop double eyelids

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